Femininity: June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable, or the Valiant Woman ...

One of my female icons growing up was Oprah Winfrey. I dreamed of being like her one day. After high school, I went to college and did everything I could to be successful. I made good grades, took internships, studied abroad, and got into law school. Then something odd happened. I began to sense God calling me to be a wife and mother.

Yikes!

I remember sharing my desire to be a wife and mother with a research professor and not being well received. Apparently I was forfeiting all that the Civil Rights leaders had worked so hard for me to be able to do as a black woman. Without an understanding of how the Lord can change hearts and minds, I can easily see how my decision not to go to law school could appear foolish.

I felt pressure from the world that I needed to be ?successful,? but here I was, desiring to be a mother. Where was I to look for guidance?

June Cleaver?

As God began to change my heart, I started to wonder what the application of this newly found desire for motherhood looked like. I was convinced that motherhood was a high calling, but did that mean I was called to be a stay-at-home mother? Thankfully I also had a husband to help me wade through these issues, and we came to conclude: yes and no.

That doesn?t sound like much of a conclusion. But yes, God calls women to pay close attention to their homes. As a matter of fact, the woman who is oriented to her home is called wise. ?The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down? (Proverbs 14:1). The home matters, and throughout Scripture God makes reference to the home and its importance (Proverbs 24:3, 15:6, 3:33, Titus 2:5).

Yet are all mothers called to be June Cleaver? You remember the fictional character of the show Leave it to Beaver. The New York Times records June?s character as glamorous, a woman who wore pearls and high heels at home and helped her family get out of jams. June baked a steady supply of cookies, and used ?motherly intuition to sound the alarm about incipient trouble.? June was seemingly joyful, agreeable, and content in her role. There is much to be commended about her character.

But I wonder if June was not also the product of a particular 1950s American milieu. She was at home in her white suburban neighborhood. She served her family well, but wasn?t always a good example of strength, initiative, or courage. Her activities in the community included social events like weddings and school fundraisers. June was ideal only in part.

Clair Huxtable?

In contrast, there?s another American icon who busied her life around caring for her family and work: Clair Huxtable.

Clair (played by Phylicia Rash?d) was witty and tough. She was a lawyer, and she was also the mother of five children on the hit TV show, The Cosby Show. Clair would make dinner, lovingly care for her husband, and listen to her children. And in 2004, her character was named ?Best TV Mom? by a poll conducted by the Opinion Research Corporation.

But I wonder if Clair was not the product of 1980s feminism. Clair was aggressive, and at times bossy. The saying, ?if momma ain?t happy, ain?t nobody happy? might apply to the Huxtable household. When the kids stepped out of line or didn?t meet her standards, it was judgment time (check out ?The Night of the Wretched,? season 6, episode 22, for a good example).

Though she cared deeply for her husband, she often treated him like a child, not trusting him as he ventured into his many household projects. She worked hard for her family, which is commendable, but just like June, her fictional character falls short of ideal.

The Valiant Woman

June and Clair aren?t mutually exclusive. From all appearances, these fictional characters loved their homes, their husbands, and their children. But if we want to gain a biblical vision for the ideal woman, we should look at the wise words of King Lemuel?s mother in Proverbs 31. God does not idealize June Cleaver or Clair Huxtable, but holds up the Proverbs 31 woman.

I already know that many people are tired of the Proverbs 31 woman and are cringing, just by looking at that subtitle. No worries, I?m not merely going to talk about how excellent she is. I?m thinking about one thing, and that is God?s word. Paul gave us insight on the value of God?s word when he said, ?All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work? (2 Timothy 3:16?17). God says his words are useful. That means that even if the ?excellent wife? has been used and abused, his word still stands true. The woman is an ideal that we should look to; she is in a book dedicated to teaching wisdom.

[Read the rest of the article at Desiring God.]

Source: http://kirkcameron.com/2013/01/femininity-june-cleaver-claire-huxtable-or-the-valiant-woman/

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